Seeing some of the people reading this blog wont have the background info on me and our family -this is a short synopsis to get you up to speed.
I am 45 years old, married for 24 and a half years to my OH (53) who is a process engineer. I was a lab technician at the same place he works, but left when I had children. We live near Auckland, New Zealand
We have 3 daughters aged 23, nearly 21 and 19
I had planned to return to the workforce after youngest daughter was born and off to school, but fate intervened. Our youngest daughter has part of one of her chromosome missing – won’t bore you with the technical details. She has moderate intellectual disability and mild physical disability with social /behavioural problems. Suffice to say I was kept too busy to reenter the paid workforce instead being very involved in lobby and advocacy and support services for parents of children with special needs- when YD was able to give me time to think about returning to the workforce I thought long and hard doing a degree in social work and carrying on doing what I was doing but getting paid for it. I decided to be a little more selfish than that and do something that had nothing to do with being YD’s mum. So two years ago I just got a part-time job in a shop and really enjoy it. I’m basically the 2-I-C and am “me” for the first time in a long time.
We had always intended that YD would leave home in her 20’s (just like her big sisters) and had been working with services to make that happen. When a vacancy in a residential house came up at the end of last year we were advised to take it – if we waited another vacancy might not come up in a suitable house in our town. So October 2007 YD left home although we still see her several times a week and she comes home every second weekend. she has 3 housemates and fulltime staff to look after them. At the moment she attends a special school.
Oldest daughter (OD) although living back at home for the last 6 months has been living away from home since first going to uni at 18 . She has a Bachelor of Business in marketing and management and after working in that field has decided to return to Uni to do a Grad. Dip. Arts this year and a Grad. Dip. teaching next year and become a secondary school teacher
Middle daughter having worked as teacher aide with special needs kids in her gap years is in her first year of a Bachelor of Education (primary) Her boyfriend also lives with us at the moment. He’s about to join the army.
Well, I thought some of the things from the above background to our family have changed so thought I would do a quick update.
I am now 46 and OH is 54, MD is moving to Christchurch to be with her SB who is stationed in the army down there. She is looking to transfer to do her last year of her teaching degree at the university down there. So we will only have OD at home, and that will only be for the next 6 months to a year while she is finishing her post-grad diploma in teaching and finding a job.
I’ve just turned 47 , OH has just turned 55. OD is at home but looking to move out to live with her boyfriend R as soon as they find a place. MD has been in Christchurch since July 2009 and now calls it home.
Recurrence to my internal mammary node (behind my ribcage) October 2009 – back in treatment.
back in remission!! Just me and OH at home now. Have enrolled in and been doing a 4 year full time Bachelor of Social Work since March this year
MD and SB have broken up and she has moved back home. I’ve just turned 48
Gertrude is back, this time metastatic in my liver. Before I started treatment again, I had some profession photos taken