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Goodbye Judy

Yesterday I learnt that my fellow IBC ‘sister’ Judy had died. I shed some tears for her because even though we had never met we had shared our stories and lives with each other through our blogs then twitter and facebook. It happended very fast after she found out she had more progression in her liver tumours a few short weeks ago.   She wrote her story at ‘Just enjoy him’.  I have other IBC sisters also going through very rough times at the moment, Susan (@whymommy at ‘Toddler Planet’) and one of my New Zealand IBC ‘sister’ K in Christchurch (who by a stange twist of fate has my niece as her nurse who pops in to see her at home) .  I also know other women with BC who are facing bigger hurdles than I am, Ann (http://www.butdoctorihatepink.com/) and Natalie ( http://www.helpnat.com/).

Judy and Susan and Natalie all have younger children and that breaks my heart a little for them and their children.  One thing I am grateful for is that I got to see my children grow to adulthood – I may not live long enough to meet all the grandchildren but I know that I have done my best to leave my girls well prepared to bring up their own children, and I am content with that.  Even YD is in a place and stage that I feel ok about it.

Reading about these women and/or having them in my life puts my own position in perspective and makes me more determined to make the most of every moment I have left.  When talking to LW last night I actually invited her to my 50th birthday party – still over a year away – late December 2012, and I am setting goals like that and ODs wedding June 2012 as  dates to still be around for.  Any of you that can make it  are invited to my 50th.

I will miss Judy who was the same age as me – she had a wicked sense of humour which shone through on her blog and facebook, and my thoughts at this time are with her family  – RIP Judy

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  1. Ning

     /  December 9, 2011

    a good strange twist of fate tho 🙂

  2. I too had a friend, Judy, who died of inflammatory breast cancer. We went through treatment at the same time. We laughed through treatment together, we cried together.

    I’m so sorry for this loss in your life. Take care,

  3. Thank you so much for this. Judy was a wonderful person who is being missed by many, many people. Blessings to you on your journey.


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